If you have been reading this blog long or know me, you probably know that I can be easily offended. A good example would be the mental list of things people have said to me about Adaline that have offended me that I am debating I should write a blog post about or not.
However, there is also a long list of things that many people are offended by that don't offend me. One example is the "R" word. Whenever I would see the campaigns against the "R" word before I knew I would be Adaline's mother, I truly thought it was a waste of someones time. I am honestly still not offend by the word. Granted, things may change as Adaline is able to understand names and be hurt by them, but for now it is something that doesn't bother me. I want my kids to learn not to define themselves with one word. Good or bad, true or not. Whether they're mostly known for being disabled or as a star athlete, I want to instill in them to always remember they are much much more.
I do however realize that I am in a new circle and many, if not most of the people in it probably are understandably offended by such things, so I do want to be respectful of that. It is hard though. With the list of taboo things not to say growing every time I find a new blog, I have a hard time communicating what I am trying to say. For example, the term "Special Needs" also seems to be becoming taboo. It is becoming hard to describe my daughters condition in less than a paragraph.
Back to the original topic, I decided to query the internet to see if I indeed should be offended by the role that this actor with down syndrome played on the show and I was surprised to find out that most parents were not offended. Many found it refreshing.
So, how have I decided to feel? I decided that I am a bit offended, but not because of the way the person with down syndrome was portrayed, but because the show itself is a bit offensive. :). I actually love the role he played. He was just one of the guys. He had wit and even rescued the guys in one scene. It was very tastefully done. My favorite part though was how the writers even poked fun at how people react try and be politically correct to
It pretty much sums up how I feel when trying to stay respectful in this new circle we are in.